How can I get my husband to talk to his brother?

Please be patient with him. We guys are weird anyway and can hold grudges for a long time over what seems to be minor to someone else. Probably there is a lot more at the root of this than he is letting you know or even he knows. If someone verbally or physically attacked one of them, the other would attack without a thought. There is love there or they both wouldn't be bothering or feeling bad, however strange this seems to you. Some people have a problem, get in each other face, get it out, over with, and put it behind them forever. Not these two, huh? Be patient, make a minor push in the right direction if the opportunity presents itself. Minor. Not overt. How about just asking the brother over for easter or a dinner or something with other guests? Maybe they have some things to get out and put behind them and then they can go on from there. If you do manage to get them together in person, suggest that your husband take his brother outside and show him lawnmower, or something. They will take care of it in 'guy talk'. I certainly hope so for their sake. Most issues work themselves out in time, but I feel that they are going to need some istance. BTW - does he know how lucky he is to have someone like you that cares so much about him and his feelings? Lucky Guy!